At least that's the way Victoria Gardner Nye, 35, from Cambridge, Mass., sees it.
“When I was dating, before I got married, my psoriasis had to come up right away for me because it was on my hands, face, and neck,” says Gardner Nye.
But when you live with a disfiguring skin disease like psoriasis, you have another layer of anxiety to add to the everyday stresses of finding a partner.
For many people living with the condition, insecurities about their appearance and fear of rejection get in the way of romance.
After all, no one truly understands what it’s like to live with psoriatic disease unless they have it too.
But what are the chances of finding another single person in your community who also has psoriasis?
“The common question people ask is, will my condition be the deal-breaker? Chino, Ph D, a psychologist in private practice with Functional Pain Solutions in Tigard, Ore., and an assistant clinical professor of medicine at Oregon Health & Science University in Portland.
“If it is," says Chino, "its a sign that the relationship wasnt meant to be.” In that way, the disease serves almost as a litmus test for future mates by separating the good from the bad right out of the gate.
According to the website’s mission page, the creator Ricky Durham started the website in honor of his brother who had Crohn’s Disease, an inflammatory disease that affects the intestines.
Over the past five years, several sitessuch as Prescription4love.com, Nolongerlonely.com, and Cisforcupid.comhave launched to serve the needs of people with conditions ranging from bipolar disorder to Crohn's disease.
Together these sites now boast tens of thousands of members.
All of these can make datingoften an ego-shattering minefield for those in perfect healtheven trickier.
"On bigger dating sites the competition is tremendous," says Jim Houran, Ph D, a clinical psychologist and columnist for Online Dating Magazine.
But having psoriasis doesnt have to prevent you from finding your happily ever afterand in some ways, it might even help.