More than looks, more than money, more than whatever nebulous definition you want to give to “value” or “status”, the most attractive aspect of a man, that x-factor that nets him attention, attraction and dates is… Over the years as I was trying to make my transition from “dateless loser” to “ladies man”, I got to know a wide variety of folks who were good with women.
Some were blessed with every advantage – classic good looks, money and charm – while others had to work for their success.
They weren’t “high-status males” with impressive jobs or flashy cars and fancy clothes.
They didn’t have useful contacts for the social climbers or the money for those supposedly hypergamous women looking for the next level. who still managed to date sexy, intelligent, ambitious women. Being fun, being able to help someone enjoy themselves transcended looks and status.
It’s easy to pinpoint a physically abusive controlling boyfriend.
There’s a thin line between a loving boyfriend and a controlling boyfriend.
But unknowingly, this subtle urge to help our partner lead a better life could turn into a dangerous obsession for all the wrong reasons.
Where do our preconceived ideas come from when it comes to dating someone of another race or ethnicity and how can we look past those?
You'll hear from sociologist Dr Zuleyka Zevallos and counsellor Sue Pratt, plus Santilla Chingapie from the SBS documentary Date My Race, Andy Trieu from SBS Pop Asia and our very own Shantan Wantan Ichiban share their experiences. We take a look at some of the challenges Indigenous Australians come across when dating.
Is he protective of you and helpful with decisions all the time? Signs of a controlling boyfriend Now all of us try to control our partners subtly, especially when we feel like they’re drifting or moving in a different direction.